When Guys Can Get Annoying

There’s a fine line between being friendly and just plain dead annoying. I’ve met many guys who upon first impression are extremely friendly and sociable. You’ll know you’re one of those people if you’re open about yourself and will jump at every opportunity to befriend someone or do them a favour.

All this is really sweet- everyone likes a nice guy, but it is the nice guy who is most likely to cross the line and suddenly become the biggest pest.

It doesn’t take much. You could be simply asking her about her day like you do every day, you could simply be asking her what she was up to, what plans she had- it could be something so small, so insignificant, but god will she blow up.

Before you know it, you’ve suddenly gone from being the sweet friendly guy to the annoying guy who won’t leave people alone.

So why the sudden change? When we first meet someone, it is normal to want to think the best of them. We overlook the small things that people do- your inability to differentiate between ‘your’ and ‘you’re’ maybe, your infuriating habit of constantly fixing their hair maybe.

Overtime however, these small things build up, and there is sure to be a time we will tick. Suddenly, when you say “Your going to the party, right?”, we will explode and you will seem like the most stupid, infuriating idiot out there.

So what do you need to know to stay on the friendly, safer side?

• If you’re talking to us and we don’t seem like we want to talk to you, don’t push us. Stop trying to make small talk, stop talking altogether. You’ve made it known you want to talk- we will respond properly when we want to.
• Don’t be clingy. Girls don’t like guys who are there all the time. You get boring, and it makes it seem like you have no life.
• Stop asking us out all the time, whether it is as friends or as an actual date, if we’ve already rejected you. You get two attempts. If we tell you we’re busy the first time, reschedule and ask a second time. If we still say no and don’t offer an alternative, sorry guys, we’re just not interested! When we are, we’ll let you know. Promise.
• If you’re talking online, learn to spell properly! Your grammar is important too. Call us pedantic, but little things like these not only annoy us, they make you look uneducated.
• I know a lot of you guys care about your hair. I guess you could say a guy playing with their hair is my biggest pet peeve. Don’t get me wrong- I love a guy who cares for their presentation, but constantly pulling and rearranging your hair makes you seem like you’re unfocused, not to mention self-centred.

Paige.