How To Be A Wonderful Boyfriend

• Show that you care. This may sound obvious, but many guys are completely oblivious. Be there for her, listen to everything she has to say, even if it doesn't interest you, offer her your help or advice if she requires any, and be supportive of her decisions and beliefs
• Don't be too clingy. Being there for her is good, but don't cross the line. Find the balance between supporting her, and giving her space. If she is busy and does not seem interested in making conversation at the moment, leave her alone for a while. It doesn't matter how many questions you ask, or how much you try to engage her in small talk, if she wants space, it WON'T MAKE A DIFFERENCE.
• Do not pressure her to hang out with your friends. Girls are strict on the 'Chicks before dicks' rule, so even if she is willing to hang with your friends, a girl loyal to her friends would still refuse. Instead, offer to hang with her friends. Otherwise, you can reach a compromise, and hang with both your friends. However, do remember that every living moment does not need to be spent with your girlfriend.
  
• Give her gifts, and often. The reason? No need. If you love her, shower her with gifts if it will make her happy. Buy her things that remind you of her, if you see something that she'd like, then buy it for her. The reason simply being 'because I thought you'd like it', or 'because I saw it and thought of you'. Why should Christmas, Valentine's Day or her birthday be any more special than any other day you spend with her? Show her that you appreciate every second in her presence.
  
• Make her feel like your number one priority. If it's love, then why not? Who cares about work or studying. You will always get a second chance at those, but love is rare. What if you never encounter it again? Make the most of the opportunity, and treasure her time. Make her feel like she's the most important thing to you, put aside other tasks for her. If you have something crucial you need to do, then make it up for her later. She might also be understanding of your situation, so it's no biggie if you can't be there all the time.
• Give her compliments. Notice her new haircuts, notice if she makes the effort to dress up for you, notice her strengths and talents, and compliment them.
  
• Take part in her romantic rendezvous, no matter how ridiculous. If she really wants to go to the prom, take her, and look like you're enjoying yourself. If she wants a sunset stroll on the beach, walk her. Notice her hints on such things, if she points out cute scenes from movies, she talks about a particular event or function, or if she mentions something romantic that happened to her friends recently. However, DO NOT COPY STRAIGHT OUT OF THE MOVIES/WHAT OTHER GUYS DO. This is strictly important. Be original! If she just told you about what some guy gave his girlfriend, the last thing you want to do is go get her exactly the same thing. Give her a variation, but NEVER the same thing. If it's a scene from a movie, be careful that you don't get overly cheesey or cliche.

NOTE: When you're supporting her or doing as she wishes, it is important that you still have an opinion, and EXPRESS it. No girl wants a dead boring guy who agrees to everything she wants, goes wherever she goes, and who has no opinion of his own. If she likes you, she'd like you for YOU, not how much you agree with her, or how you follow her around like a puppy. Adore her, but arguments or disagreements SHOULD HAPPEN. I'm not saying to go pick up fights, or to hold your beliefs or morals against her. Respect her own beliefs, but if yours are different, do not feel the need to conform to hers, or vice versa.

-Ebony

I Like You.

So Simple. So sweet. So heartwarming.

I'll run you guys through the rules, first.

1. Be sincere.
   
2. Be serious.

So you've finally decided that you will tell her. Thank you and congratualations. You have finally graduated from a wimpy boy and can now proceed to finding your way to becoming a man.

Now the fun part. Learn from your idiot friends who told the girl of his dreams on Bebo. Don't do that.

• Write her a letter. It is very sweet because it is very old school. Just make sure you get this to the right girl. This is the non stupid alternative if you're online confessions sorta guy.
  
• Send her a message in chocolate or sweetheart candies. Roses work too. Cough, Valentines Day coming up, cough.
  
• Send her a list of reasons why she's awesome under 'pros' and put not with me under 'cons'.
• Write in on her hand.
  
• Record it, burn it on a CD then give it to her.
  

Do not proceed down these roads, or even conceive thoughts of doing so.

• Tell her online. We've discussed this. How would she know if you are joking or not? How would she know if it isn't actually your friend on your account? Sure, you can tell her again/confirm in person, but where is the sweetness and surprise in that? Just don't, okay?
• Get your friend to do it. You just lost about ten points with her even if she does agree because she has been in love with you.
• Make a joke of it. End of sentence.

When Guys Can Get Annoying

There’s a fine line between being friendly and just plain dead annoying. I’ve met many guys who upon first impression are extremely friendly and sociable. You’ll know you’re one of those people if you’re open about yourself and will jump at every opportunity to befriend someone or do them a favour.

All this is really sweet- everyone likes a nice guy, but it is the nice guy who is most likely to cross the line and suddenly become the biggest pest.

It doesn’t take much. You could be simply asking her about her day like you do every day, you could simply be asking her what she was up to, what plans she had- it could be something so small, so insignificant, but god will she blow up.

Before you know it, you’ve suddenly gone from being the sweet friendly guy to the annoying guy who won’t leave people alone.

So why the sudden change? When we first meet someone, it is normal to want to think the best of them. We overlook the small things that people do- your inability to differentiate between ‘your’ and ‘you’re’ maybe, your infuriating habit of constantly fixing their hair maybe.

Overtime however, these small things build up, and there is sure to be a time we will tick. Suddenly, when you say “Your going to the party, right?”, we will explode and you will seem like the most stupid, infuriating idiot out there.

So what do you need to know to stay on the friendly, safer side?

• If you’re talking to us and we don’t seem like we want to talk to you, don’t push us. Stop trying to make small talk, stop talking altogether. You’ve made it known you want to talk- we will respond properly when we want to.
• Don’t be clingy. Girls don’t like guys who are there all the time. You get boring, and it makes it seem like you have no life.
• Stop asking us out all the time, whether it is as friends or as an actual date, if we’ve already rejected you. You get two attempts. If we tell you we’re busy the first time, reschedule and ask a second time. If we still say no and don’t offer an alternative, sorry guys, we’re just not interested! When we are, we’ll let you know. Promise.
• If you’re talking online, learn to spell properly! Your grammar is important too. Call us pedantic, but little things like these not only annoy us, they make you look uneducated.
• I know a lot of you guys care about your hair. I guess you could say a guy playing with their hair is my biggest pet peeve. Don’t get me wrong- I love a guy who cares for their presentation, but constantly pulling and rearranging your hair makes you seem like you’re unfocused, not to mention self-centred.

Paige.

How To Be A Secret Admirer

Girls like secret admirers. They're mysterious, romantic, and fun to figure out. If you want to spill to the girl you like, but you don't want to tell her all in one go, then sent her notes, present and messages, anonymously.

DOs:

• It's called a secret admirer, so make sure you don't let ANYONE know
• Send her secret messages. E.G. anonymous emails, to her house, hand delivered, in her locker
  
• Send her gifts. E.G. Roses on Valentines day, small gifts for no reason at all
• Be poetic. In your messages that is. You don't have to actually WRITE a poem though. Just be creative, think from your heart
• If being poetic isn't for you, try using quotes instead. Find quotes that express your feelings, but in someone else's words
• Sign off anonymously. Otherwise she'd think it was just from a friend.
• Address it directly to her. Otherwise she'd think it was for someone else.
• Make sure your messages are legible.

DON'Ts:

• Go to far. This may be considered as stalker-ish, or creepy
• Leave any clues. Dust your trail well, leave behind NOTHING
• Be long winded in your messages
• Don't be cliched either.
  
• Get caught
• Continue for too long. You have one month max. You can't keep sending her messages and gift forever. Know, when you start out, that you will have to tell her eventually. Give yourself a set date, and make yourself tell her when the day comes.
  
• Don't keep sending gifts over a long period of time, it'll make her impatient.

With Valentine's Day nearing, now is the perfect time to be a secret admirer. But remember: you must be completely prepared to tell her by a set date, otherwise there's no point! Plus you'll make her feel frustrated.

You've Fallen Hard... Now What?

Scrape that. It doesn't matter if you're wholly and completely in love with her or are just crushing on her. There's a universal step that should always follow. Are you ready??

Tell her.

Yes, you heard me. There are many times of the day when I think, and stress over the lost opportunities of the world. Not just regarding my own life love, because, trust me - it's hella depressing. But of the world. Yes, I imagine all the lost opportunities of the people that I do not know and never will and it saddens me.

It saddens me that people's stupidity, insecurities, ego, pride get in the way of a path that can be truly rewarding and life changing.

I beg all men of the world to let the girl you like know it. Think about it; its the only rational thing in the world.

Aren't you completely saddened by the fact that maybe, no matter how small or slight that possibility was - that you may have ended up with her? Your life may be completely different right now. You could be listening to pretentious pop together, you could be walking along a road holding her hand. You could be spending Valentine's Day with SOMEONE this year. But you are not. You are lonely and cold. Well lonely and hot if you happen to belong in the southern hemisphere as I am aware that some of our readers are. (Don't worry Australia, China, NZ - we've not forgotten about you! :D)

It's an established social expectation that guys make the first move. Therefore, even if a girl is completely in love with you, chances are - she won't do anything about it unless you tell her or you give the green lights. And guys never give any light at all, so all there is to do is tell her. Sorry about that. You have no other option.

What is the worse that can happen? She can eat you alive, if you look like tasteful meat - but lets face it; it's unlikely she's cannibalistic. Or maybe you should ask her prior to doing the deed. Drop by and say "hey, are you a cannibal?". No, seriously, don't do that. SHE ISN'T A CANNIBAL, OKAY?! Gosh, what is the matter with you?

So, besides eating you because she is a cannibal, the worst thing she can do is say no.

But now at least you know. Let me put it this way. You will either get a yes, or a no. If it is a yes - GOODNESS GRACIOUS ME! You can now go imagine how pretty your procreations with her would be.

And if it is a no, at least now you know. At least now you will no longer be wasting your time crushing on her and getting even more hurt in the end. At least you gave yourself a chance.

Congratulations. You can now move on with your life, with or without her.

I will be writing a post on the right way to tell this special, special girl quite soon. Until then, don't fear.

Little Romantic Things A Guy Can Do To Win A Girl Over

It really isn’t that hard. Try some of these and you’ll have any girl falling for you.

• Write little romantic notes and stick them in places you know she’ll find them- in her locker, books, car. These are really sweet and will surprise her and make her think of you.
• Her voicemail works too.
• Cook her dinner- candlelight and all. There’s something special about something prepared just for her.
• Also try breakfast in bed works.
• Call her up spontaneously for no reason at all and let her know how much she means to you.
• Serenade her- do make sure you can sing beforehand, though. If you’re not too sure, best not to be too ambitious.
• Putting on a slow love cong and asking her to dance is equally romantic.
• Blindfold her and take her to a place she's never been.
• Stand up for her whenever she’s in the need.
• Re-enact her favourite love scenes.
• Re-enacting your first date is also good.
• Write ‘I Love You’ on the mirror when she’s in the shower.
• Spray your smell on her pillow so she’ll be reminded of you everytime she falls asleep.

How To Tell If A Girl Likes You

• She really makes an effort to get to know you
• She's flirting with you (hair twirling, using your name often, she laughs hard at a lot of things you say, she makes eye contact often, only to quickly look away, she compliments you)
• Her eyes dilate when you're nearby (it's often hard to tell if the girl has dark eyes, but its scientifically proven that the eyes dilate when they see something they find attractive)
• She tries to engage you in conversation, and finds the excuse to talk to you
• She is unusually nervous around you
• She is more casual and relaxed around other guys, or her own friends
• She asks you for help often (e.g. with homework, something she doesn't get at school, her feet hurt, she's feeling cold, she's thirsty and needs a drink, etc.) She's not feeling needy, she's testing you to see how you'd react if she's in need.
• She is usually the one next to you when with a large group of friends (e.g. when you're watching a movie, walking around in the mall)
• She talks about more serious matters when you're alone, often concerning your family or your future plans
• She makes reference to a lot of her ex-boyfriends, or of guys who have liked her, or currently like her (she's trying to make you jealous, and make you realise that she is desired by others)
• She flirts with your friends, but she doesn't engage in serious conversations with them, only casual banter (again, she's trying to make you jealous)
• She remembers little unimportant details, such as the day you met, how you met, a small thing you mentioned a while ago
• She asks you if you have a girlfriend, whether you've had any girlfriends in the past, what you look for in a girl
• Her friends often find excuses to leave the two of you alone, they giggle or look at the two of you curiously when together
• She makes contact often (e,g, hugging, lightly touching your shoulder, pretending to punch or slap you)
• She extends your conversations and goes into detail on most of the things you say, she's asks many questions
• She likes your new haircut
• She smiles often at you
• She gets easily offended at some things that you don't find offensive at all (girls have fragile hearts. Guys don't know this, but they often, unintentionally, send off the wrong signals). Things such as talking about how hot/cute/pretty another girl is, seeming uninterested at what she has to say
• She casually mentions that she thinks you're a date-able kind of guy

Yes, this list is long, but over the years, women have developed many ways of hinting her feelings towards a guy without actually screaming out 'I LIKE YOU, DAMMIT!', but men can really be very infuriating when they are blatantly oblivious to all our hints.

However, don't be too cocky if a girl does some of the things on the list (or a close alternative). You wouldn't want to be over paranoid and think that every girl is hot for your heels, because that just makes you arrogant and overconfident, and girls don't like that.

- Ebony

Why Are Bad Boys So Good

I totally blame Hollywood, Bollywood, Korean, Japanese, Chinese, whatever-floats-your-boat entertainment industry.

This is the plot outline of 95% if not more of any movie or series you will ever come across. The guy would be hardcore bad. He would be hot, rich (this is optional - but it usually is the case because you know - money just makes everything so much more convenient!), popular with the ladies but a TOTAL and complete arsehole. So at first, he would completely disregard the totally pretty leading lady who is supposedly unpopular and an outcast. Isn't it so nice that she would more like than not come with a slammin' body? It's all in the package deal.

Okay okay - so the guy is really bad and either the girl or Mr Bad would have feelings for the other one. Then they discovered "UH OH. WE BOTH LOVE EACH OTHER!" and then he changes. We see his really soft spot inside! Aww, isn't that perfect?

Well, unfortunately, life isn't always so great for everybody who is in love with a bad boy. Speaking from a personal stance, I totally get what girls mean when they say "I can't help it!" or "It wasn't something I could have controlled" when it comes to bad boys. I've been there and done all that.

It's ridiculous! From an objective stance - say you are someone who has never been in a romantic mess - like... Buddha, then you would think the girl is wholly and completely insane as she knows too well that he is not good for her.

So why is it that girls dig unsuitable men?

• They're fun and exciting. Unless you are above 30, girls your age are probably young and looking for a thrill. And why shouldn't they? Why waste your youth when you are allowed to be stupid for about a decade and can just say that "oh - it's alright, it was something I did when I was young!"
• It is seen that guys with attitude and guts are testosterone filled which is manly and attractive.
• We believe we can change you as bad boys in those movies have been changed by lurve.

Ways to get girls with this in mind:

• If you are bad, you are bad. If you are not bad, you are not bad. Don't be someone you are not. It would work against you for sure.
• You don't have to be bad to be fun and exciting. You shouldn't not be fun and exciting because you are not a bad boy.
• Show ways that you are the man without being a total fungus.
• LAST BUT NOT LEAST: don't ever forget there is a fine line between bad boys and totally out of the question. You can be a bad boy, but it doesn't mean that you have to treat her like crap. Because sooner or later, she would realize, as I had, that you are not worth the time when you are treating a girl who is genuinely into you, like dirt. And there you go, you probably just lost the best thing that's happened to you yet or ever will.

~ Again, it's Alice from Wonderland.

How To Break Up With A Girl

Ok, so you don’t think it’s working out. Ok, the thought of even being with her may make you want to jump off a bridge, but that’s no reason to be a dick when it comes to breaking it to her.

So, be honest. Don’t say you need to focus more on school when you’re obviously not. It’ll only give her hope of continuing your relationship after school.

Don’t let the world know of your plans of breaking up with her before she actually finds out. It will be very humiliating if the whole world seems to know about it when she’s only just found out.

Keep it simple. Don’t umm and ahh. Get to the point. It’ll make it less painful.

Give her a reason. And don’t tell her it’s because of her. Even if it may be. It doesn’t sound nice when she’s crying to her friends about it.

Girls take a while to get over break ups, so don’t even THINK about dating another girl for a few weeks at least.

Paige.

5 Small Things You Can Do To Be A Better Man

1. Get a haircut. You have absolutely no idea how much this affects your overall looks, but it does. Greatly. A haircut too short will usually make your face look bigger and beefier. Big manga-hair looks ridiculous. Hair should compliment your face, not steal the spotlight.
   
2. Buy (and use) nice cologne or a fragrance. Different girls will like different smells, but any bottled smell is better than the smell of your sweat. No one will like you if you smell like the football team.
3. Attempt to wear something that doesn't look like you slept in it. Whether you're a funky graphic tee sort of guy, or a classic polo guy, make sure you actually wash your clothes, and iron them when necessary. I know this is pretty basic, but you'd be surprised at the amount of guys who forget to wash their clothes.
   
4. Stop wearing the same thing over and over. It's probably not the first thing on your mind when you're dressing. It's probably not on your mind at all when you're dressing. But please start taking notice, and make sure you don't wear the same thing three weeks in a row. It really has people pondering over whether or not you own any other items of apparel.
5. Watch your mouth. Don't be offensive. Be charming. Be suave. Be charismatic. This includes not using a swear word for every second word you speak, complimenting people, noticing if they've made a particular effort dressing up for you, remembering their references, the things they like to eat, the movies they plan on watching, and the bands they listen to.

- Ebony

Pickup lines that COULD work, and why.

You've seen and read them all over the internet. You probably have googled it once upon a time some time ago when you were really bored. But I'm more sure about this than most things - there are hardly a handful of guys who actually have the balls to pull them off to a girl he is (note!) genuinely interested in.

Note: can - so it is largely dependent on how it pulled off, the timing, the guy, the girl etc.

• Baby I'll treat you like my hw- I'll slam you on the table and do you all night long. A bit far fetched, I see your point. Outright offensive, maybe - but chances are you'll get a mouth wide open "HA!" or eyes deeply rolled to the back of her heads.
  This line is the epitome of crazy gangster super nerd. He is obviously, a nerd and very very comfortable himself - he uses it to his advantage. And you have got to admit it - how can you not give kudos to a man who is man enough to pull something like this.
• I less than three you..... (i <>This isn't so much a pickup line, and would be better whispered to a girl who would love that you are being so incredibly sweet - sugar sweet enough to say something like this.
• I wanna stick to you like glue-cose. Again, sweet - maybe sickly so but some girls are just into this stuff, you know?
• Is your father a terrorist, because you are the bomb. Haha, who has't heard of this one? And who has heard it being used? Exactly. You do the calculations ;)
• Lets make love like pi; irrational and never ending. Yeah, girls just like cheesy, cute stuff like this.
• Your beauty defies real and complex analysis. Maybe not exactly like this, but remember, each and every girl likes to hear that she is goddamn beautiful. It is fundamentally known that guys lie and deceive girls all the time in this area, and girls aren't stupid (well..., okay, lets not go there) but it's still extremely nice to the ears. Do it more often, please. It is about the same as the feeling you get when you hear a chick dig how large your biceps are. Not such a bad feeling, huh?

- Alice, from Wonderland.

Asking a Girl Out 101- What Not To Do

1. Don’t do it in front of her friends. This will only give her pressure, which can be a good or bad thing, but it’s best to play it safe.

2. Don’t get your best mate to do it for you, or her best mate for that matter. It makes it seem like a joke. And again, this will give her pressure.

3. Don’t go overboard. Being too confident will make you seem cocky, and frankly, cocky guys are cocks.

4. Don’t take a whole hour to get to the point. Girls like straight-forwardness.

5. For the love of god, when she asks “as friends?”, don’t give some ambiguous answer like “whatever suits you”, because they will only leave her pondering your real intentions.

Paige.

Ways to Get To Know A Girl Better

So you like this girl, but you know practically nothing about her, and have nothing to say to her. Step one, get to know her.

• Facebook: it's unbelievable the amount of things someone would include about themselves. Surprise her by knowing her favourite movies, the books she reads, the music she listens to.
• Read her blog if she owns one:

(source: postsecret.blogspot.com)

• Ask her friends. Be careful about this one though. If you ask too much, the friend will probably think of you as some psychotic stalker, or will most likely figure out that you her. Unless you are willing to tell the friend, then DO NOT TRY THIS. Also, note that girls tell other girls everything. If you tell someone, it will most likely reach the girl you like. So tread carefully.
• Ask her. It's simple as there. A nice and easy 'Hey, my name is ______, I wanna get to know you' is all it takes. If you're a little too shy, then start off by being her friend. Approach her and talk. It can be anything, as ridiculous as pretending you need a small loan, to complimenting her on some latest public achievement. Seize every opportunity.
  

Why Online Dating Services Will Never Work

You walk down the alter, slowly, happy and loving every moment of the attention you are thriving. Call me old fashioned, but there is something slightly less romantic about these vows: "When I logged onto Match.com, I hadn't expect something serious. I paid the $26.79 all access subscription fee and took it slowly. But when I set eyes upon your profile, I knew it was something more. Needless to say it was mutual love at first click."

Don't get me wrong, I've heard happy endings made by internet cupids, but the odds are there - against you. Besides romance, there are many reasons why you should RETHINK seriously about resorting to online dating services.

1. It's dangerous. It's the internet, this should be self explanatory! And especially in this area, more often than not you are being tricked, lied to or manipulated in some way. Chances are, if you meet the exact same girl on the street or through a friend, she would be completely sane and sweet. But the internet is so damn easy to talk bullocks with, it's almost a crime to not.
   And consider yourself lucky if you are being lied to by a girl if you get my drift. I mean, which literate person has not read or heard an online dating horror story?
2. It doesn't sound like you have a lot of friends or social life.
3. A girl will definitely find it harder to trust a guy who she found looking for playmates on the internet to not be wondering off doing the exact same thing behind her back. She understands you've got that dangerous potential.
4. She will feel as if she is with a man who is not man enough to go out there and fish for the ... fish himself. Rather, she knows you sit on your feminine ass and order from KFC (you know, they don't even sell fish.)
5. Her friends will laugh at her, and if you do have friends, that is - they'll will probably laugh at you, too.
6. She deserves a better story than this.

~ Again, it's Alice from Wonderland.