Friday, April 3, 2009

What She Thinks Of Your Friends

It's important that your girlfriend likes your friends- but it's also important she doesn't like your friends too much, if you get what I mean. What you want to achieve:

She likes your friends in a friendly way. The signs:
  • she regularly hangs around them
  • she seems to genuinely enjoy herself in their company
  • she talks abut things they have done with you when you're alone
  • she doesn't mind having to hang around them
  • when she's in their presence and you're not there, it's not all awkward and silence
  • her friends are friends with your friends
However, these two can be bad, particularly the second:

She hates your friends.
  • she loudly expresses her dislike: sighs when you make her hang out with them, complaints, etc
  • she wouldn't hang out with your friends unless you convinced her to
  • she is normally talkative around you, but is really cold to your friends
  • when you're not there, she doesn't attempt to make conversation with your friends
  • she hates it when you can't be with her because you're doing something with your mates
She likes your friends... a little too much.
  • Yep, she definitely hangs around them all the time
  • she laughs harder at their jokes than yours (and not just because you're unfunny)
  • she flirts with them (see this post, but apply it to your friends)
  • she's spending time with them when you're not around
  • she's starting to spend more time when them than you
Your girlfriend's relationship with your friends is vital. Monitor and observe it well.